A relationship should never have to end because a spouse has cheated. As we all know, cheating is the ultimate betrayal in a relationship and is the final straw for most of us to call it quits. That isn’t to say that people don’t work around it, but it takes a lot of time and effort to rebuild a relationship after cheating and it’s something we don’t all have the energy for.
The truth, he could’ve cheated for various reasons, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you or never did. No matter the reasoning here, the one thing to remember is that you should never blame yourself. An unhappy home life is never a valid reason to betray the person you’re supposed to be in love with. If you’re having doubts about the future of your relationship or whether or not he’s cheated, it might be time to consult with a relationship psychic. Keep in mind, people cheat for all kinds of reasons. The most common ones can be found below.
Immaturity: Some people don’t know what they want in life and love or whether they’re coming or going for that matter. While they may have seemed sincere in the beginning, some people just aren’t ready or even cut out for a relationship at all. Commitment, honesty, and communication are the foundations of any healthy relationship and if even one of those things is lacking you’re going to struggle. The fact that some people can go out and cheat shows they’re not mature enough to be your life partner.
Substance Abuse: For those of us that struggle with substance abuse, having a partner to help you through it is something you should be entirely grateful for. That being said, not everyone is looking to mend their abuse of drugs or alcohol and are in fact deep into their addiction. This sort of behavior breeds disloyalty and if they’re spending more time partying than at home with you and your children, you shouldn’t be so ready to trust them. The truth is, getting wasted will only lower their inhibitions, making them much less likely to throw it all away for a lousy one night stand.
Selfishness: Put bluntly, some people just don’t really care about anyone but themselves. Selfishness is either a trait you recognize in your partner or you don’t, depending on how long you’ve been with them. Having their cake and eating it too is how a lot of people like to treat their partners, likely not feeling a shred of remorse for cheating or even feeling compelled to confess to their outrageous behavior. If you suspect your partner is cheating and not telling you, try speaking with professionals, like a relationship psychic, for example.
Impulse: Even the best of us can succumb to impulse. That isn’t to say that cheating is acceptable, as it’s one of those situations that you should always remove yourself from before it even comes close to that. Allowing a flirty back and forth with a work colleague to develop into a situation where you’re faced with such a dilemma went wrong the moment that you started having anything other than a professional relationship with this person, for example.
Revenge: Whether it’s because you cheated in the past or you’ve done something to greatly offend them, this might be the excuse they’ve been looking for to go out and cheat on you. Either way, two wrongs certainly don’t make a right and they’ve agreed to forgive you for your past mistakes, they shouldn’t be holding them against you. Of course, if you cheated first, that doesn’t detract from this, but you should certainly be evaluating whether you’re meant for each other if you can do this to one another.
Anger: People with anger issues can struggle to contain their emotions, even for their loved ones. Anger manifests itself in the ugliest of ways and deciding to cheat because of some ill feelings following an argument isn’t all that uncommon. Being with someone with anger problems is tough already without them having the tendency to go out and cheat on you too. If their bouts of rage tend to display concerns about this behavior, you should ask yourself if it’s worth the pain down the line.
Commitment Issues: We don’t all sign up for a relationship and know that it’s exactly what we want. Sometimes we rush into things, have second thoughts, or get cold feet as it becomes more serious. Just because someone struggles with the idea of commitment, however, doesn’t mean they’re bound to cheat. But if there’s an old flame hanging around and you’re starting to get suspicious, you should do what you can to allay your fears, whether that’s bringing up the subject to your partner or putting an end to the relationship altogether.